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How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks For Big Success In Relationships
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A book onbody language rather than talking.
I bought this book hoping to discover some useful small talk techniques. How to draw things from other people that you can use to create conversation. This isn't covered in this book. This is a book almost exclusively about body language, not talking.
The insights aren't especially new or useful either - full of stuff like "smile when you first meet people".
The best thing about this book is that it is broken down into specific techniques with an illustrative anecdote which makes for easy reading.
The worst thing is that it is written in that sickly insincere "Oh my God, already" American style.
American-orientated, not completely useful for Brits
While containing _some_ good pointers for engaging people, this book tends to be heavily American-orientated (for obvious reasons, I know, but it still does!). Many of the tips are likely to come across as fake and alienate an audience of cynical Brits. I cite the example of the 'Hello Old Friend' technique towards the beginning of the book - this would likely leave the average British target thinking "what the hell is wrong with this over-the-top person?". Or the idea that you should never directly compliment an artist/writer and only ever talk about how much pleasure their work has given you personally - I know a lot of British artists would find this immensely arrogant, and, yes, fake. For me, too blatent and likely to scare people.
I have no doubt that with a bit of study, Leil could write a version perfectly adapted to the British. This just isn't it.
"Guide to becoming a Luther"
This book helped me to notice (and correct) those little annoying traits in myself that point towards low self-esteem.
Although some of these 'techniques' are slightly obvious (stand up straight, smile & use eye contact) - the author offers ways to remember to do these - which I'm sure we'd all admit to forgetting to do sometimes.
As the book progresses, the techniques become more aimed at business, and slightly more complex!
I'd agree with the other comments - these techniques are good for new relationships, business relationships or just one-off meetings, but to use some of these on your friends, especially the business type ones - would render you a heartless business mogul in the leagues of Lex Luther!
"How to Impress Powerful People" would be a better title. 
The final two of her 92 "tips" are a good summary of the book:
"No matter how prominent the Big Cat behind the podium is, crouched inside is a little scaredy-cat who is anxious about the crowd's acceptance.
Big Winners recognize you're a fellow Big Winner when they see you leading their listeners in a positive reaction. Be the *first* to applaud or publicly commend the man or woman you agree with (or want favours from)."
"Any two people have an invisible scorecard hovering over their heads. The numbers continually fluctuate but one rule remains: player with lower score pays deference to player with higer score. The penalty for not keeping your eye on the "Great Scorecard in the Sky" is to be thrown out of the game. Permanently."
If those are good pieces of advice, and you are keen to hear more detailed descriptions of the same, this book will be helpful to you. The actual title is misleading. The book does not have tips on how to approach or open conversations with "anyone". Ms. Lowndes only really has certain specific kinds of people in mind as to who she wants to talk to, and very specific things she wants to obtain from her relationships. If you are in basic agreement with her, this may well be your book.
DONT BOTHER 
Its been a cold night an I've just finished draging myself to the end of this "book" an I can honestly say that the only good thing I've gotten from this read is the heat from its flames after I through it in the fire. Need I say anymore.
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